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Don't Hesitate To Cry A Tear
By:Hallidae Thomason
Growing up, my siblings and I were never aloud to cry even just one tear. No matter how sad, mad or hurt we were, tears were never allowed. We were told that truly tough people didn't shed a tear no matter how bad life got. Tears, our parents said, were for wimps and people who weren't strong enough to handle life.
As I grew into my teenage years, I found it nearly impossible to make it through week after week without crying a single tear. Since I knew my parents would not allow me to cry, I'd often spend many tearful evenings alone in my upstairs bedroom or in the treefort high that remained high in one of our favorite backyard trees. I knew when a tear or two or many was about to come and so I'd quickly make my way to somewhere that I could be alone. I'm not sure if any of my other siblings did this as well, but I am quite sure that I never got caught in all my years of secret crying.
I made a commitment to myself early on in life that my own family would always be allowed to shed a tear or to cry as hard and long as they felt like. I would never subdue the emotions of my children as my parents had done for me. Now, as a counselor of children and adolescents, I have been even further convinced that children and people of all ages need outlets where they can safely and fully shed a tear.
So my advice to parents, teachers, siblings and friends is to let the people around you shed a tear if that is where their emotions take them. Of course, there are always more and less appropriate times to let your emotions carry you away, and I am by no means suggesting that people should be allowed to shed a tear or many at any time. I am simply saying that we need to reconsider what we are teaching our children about emotions. I do not want to be responsible for raising children who are unaware of their emotions or who are so busy trying to subdue them that eventually they succeed and end up living a life without feeling anything.
Crying a tear is a healthy thing. It is healthy mentally, emotionally and even physically. Humans were made to feel and experience the deepest and most raw emotions. Don't allow yourself or other people to live in the bondage of not being able to feel deeply. Life is much richer and more real when it is experienced through the emotions. So go ahead, shed a tear or two.
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Hallidae Thomason loves being a children and adolescent counselor. She loves encouraging her clients to shed a tear when they need to. See www.tearhub.info for more on the importance of shedding tears and feeling deeply.
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