Can You Handle Deferred Success? - Goal Setting Article

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By:John Halderman

Are you willing to fail to the point of success?

No! Well you should be.

Failure is what leads to success; it is proof of action. All
your efforts that lead to failure should be praised and
rewarded, for they are moving you in the direction of the
success.

In all areas of life, the people who are forging ahead with
progress are the ones willing to fail, because they know
enough failures lead to success. They know that success is
just being deferred with each failure, not prevented.

The only way to surely fail is to stop attempting. If you
fail twice and give up, you can now be sure you will not
succeed. But you are the one placing the guarantee on it
not the situation.

The key is to just keep going.

Thomas Edison sought failure eagerly, he knew with each
failure he was a little closer to a solution. The faster he
failed, the sooner he got to the prize.

Success is going from failure to failure without loss of
enthusiasm. - - Winston Churchill

When the results don't come out as you want it's time to
review what transpired then determine a new adjusted plan of
action.

There is a success called plan called, plan, do, review,
which is self explanatory and simple. But this basic
process repeated over and over will bring you closer and
closer to the intended result. Implement this simple process
I everything you do and you will see two things. You will
start to embrace the natural process of discovery and
understanding, and you will see success.

Fear is one of our worst enemies when it comes to success.
In two ways many people allow fear to defeat them.

One, the fear of failure right from the beginning prevents
them from even get started. They are so concerned about
what could possibly go wrong that even getting started is
too hard. Second, they allow the fear of continual failure
to become stronger than their convictions and drive. They
allow their fears to meld with worry to sabotage their
intentions.

There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to
achieve: the fear of failure. - -Paulo Coelho

So what does it take to overcome these fears?

1- Determination--Having a very strong drive and focus on
the desired result helps to keep one strong through
adversity. In the classic book "Think And Grow Rich",
Napolean Hill said you needed to develop a white-hot heated
burning desire to succeed. When this burning desire becomes
strong enough it will override the disappointments of
interim setbacks, giving you the drive to persist.

2- Perception--A key trait of the people who can accept
failure and forge through it, is they don't see failure as
the end. Rather they look at it as a learning opportunity,
a point to assess, adjust and go again. How you perceive
something and interpret it determines how you allow it to
effect you. And this is certainly the case with the fear of
failure. The person who can continue through setbacks is
one who sees them as momentary not permanent.

3- Self-concept--How you see yourself in terms of your
right, ability and worthiness to be doing something can
effect your confidence behind your pursuits. It is very
helpful to come to a point where you know you are worthy of
your desired goal. Know that you are just a worthy as
anyone else and that delays and failures along the way are
not signs that you don't deserve it. They are merely the
means of discovery that everyone experiences. Work on
yourself, develop a strong high self-esteem and you will be
able to weather the storm.

If you want something bad enough you should be willing to
stick with it to the point where there are no more failure
options.

Failure really is a good thing. The people who fail the
most win the most. I'm sure you have heard before that Babe
Ruth with his home run record also holds the record for the
most strikeouts. How can this be? Well, more strikeouts
show more opportunities for homeruns. If he did not have
all the opportunities to keep attempting home runs, he would
never have hit them.

More attempts mean more strikeouts and more homeruns. Thomas
Edison utilized this principle also, he was relentless and
conducted experiments at a fast pace in order to get through
the learning and adjusting phase quickly. He knew it was
just how the process worked. There was no master conspiracy
against him making things more difficult, just the natural
process.

Both of these men knew that success was merely deferred, not
impossible.

Failure should be our teacher, not our undertaker. Failure
is delay, not defeat. It is a temporary detour, not a dead
end. Failure is something we can avoid only by saying
nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing. - -Denis Waitley

Don't get mad, don't get disappointed, just keep going.

Focus your sights in the target and don't let the failures
deter you. Visualize the things that don't go according to
plan as deferred success, success only delayed for a while.
Don't allow failure to be guaranteed by quitting. The
success is there, you just need to properly align yourself
with it and this may take a few or even many attempts. Are
you determined to have a resolve stronger than the setbacks?

It comes down to choice, are you going to succumb to the
roadblocks or are you going to take command of your personal
growth and choose to learn from the failures? Will you
continue to readjust and keep going at it until you
eliminate all the reasons why not?

I believe that one of the characteristics of the human race
- possibly the one that is primarily responsible for its
course of evolution - is that it has grown by creatively
responding to failure. Glen Seaborg - American Scientist &
Nobel Laureate

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