EFT & Finding our Purpose in Life - part 2

By:Robert Elias Najemy

C. Obstacles Toward the Fulfillment of the Purpose of Life

In connection with the possible changes you would like to make in your lifestyle, work or life in general, consider if you have any the following obstacles:

1. Are you concerned about what the others will think?
a) Who?
b) What do you believe they will think?
c) Why do you mind that they will have these thoughts?

In this case we will employ EFT for any obstacles with the following possible set up.

A. Even though I feel _______ when I focus on what others might think about me if I do what I really want to do, I deeply and profoundly love myself.
Or

Even though I feel _______ when I focus on what others might think about me if I do what I really want to do, I am proceeding and dynamically making those changes now."

B. I choose (want, deserve, allow myself, accept, realize that it is in my benefit) to be free from this (emotion) ________.

C. Reminder Phrase = (The emotion) _________.

2. Do you have some financial insecurity in connection with these changes? What do you fear?

A. Even though fear (or other emotion) for my financial security when I think of doing what I really want to do, I deeply and profoundly love myself.
Or
Even though fear (or other emotion) for my financial security when I think of doing what I really want to do, I am proceeding and dynamically making those changes now."

B. I choose (want, deserve, allow myself, accept, realize that it is in my benefit) to be free from this (emotion) ________.

C. Reminder Phrase = (The emotion) _________.

3. Do you have attachments to some comforts, which stop you from living your life more in accordance with your goals or ideals?
a) Which comforts?
b) What will you miss if you do not have them?

A. Even though I fear that I will lose my comforts if I make this change in my life live according to my highest ideals, I deeply and profoundly love myself.
Or
Even though I fear that I will lose my comforts if I make this change in my life live according to my highest ideals, I am proceeding and dynamically making those changes now."

B. I choose (want, deserve, allow myself, accept, realize that it is in my benefit) to be free from this (fear or other emotion) ________.

C. Reminder Phrase = (The emotion) _________.

4. Do you have attachments to exterior sources of security, enjoyment or affirmation, which stop you from moving on toward your life purposes?
a) What are these attachments?
b) What will happen if you do not have them?

A. Even though I fear that I will lose (what we are attached to) _____ if I make this change in my life and live according to my highest ideals, I deeply and profoundly love myself.
Or
Even though I fear that I will lose (what we are attached to) _____ if I make this change in my life and live according to my highest ideals, I am proceeding and dynamically making those changes now.

B. I choose (want, deserve, allow myself, accept, realize that it is in my benefit) to be free from this (fear or other emotion) ________.

C. Reminder Phrase = (The emotion) _________.

5. Do you fear that you will not succeed at or complete what you want to do?

A. Even though I fear that I might fail if I make this change in my life and do what I really want to do, I deeply and profoundly love myself.
Or
Even though I fear that I might fail if I make this change in my life and do what I really want to do, I am proceeding and dynamically making those changes now.

B. I choose (want, deserve, allow myself, accept, realize that it is in my benefit) to be free from this (fear or other emotion) ________.

C. Reminder Phrase = (The emotion) _________.

6. Do you lack self-control and will power?
If so, what can you do about it?

A. Even though I fear I will feel suppressed if I make this effort to change in my life and do what I really want to do, I deeply and profoundly love myself.
Or
Even though I fear I will feel suppressed if I make this effort to change in my life and do what I really want to do, I am proceeding and dynamically making those changes now.

B. I choose (want, deserve, allow myself, accept, realize that it is in my benefit) to be free from this (fear or other emotion) ________.

C. Reminder Phrase = (The emotion) _________.

7. Do you perhaps have lack of faith in God, in the soul or in spiritual life?
If so, what can you do about it?

A. Even though I fear I will lose something if I make this effort to change in my life and do what I really value, I deeply and profoundly love myself.
Or
Even though I fear I will lose something if I make this effort to change in my life and do what I really value, I am proceeding and dynamically making those changes now.
B. I choose (want, deserve, allow myself, accept, realize that it is in my benefit) to be free from this (fear of other emotion) ________.

C. Reminder Phrase = (The emotion) _________.

8. Do you perhaps believe that you are too old for changes and that you have missed the opportunities for change?

A. Even though I fear am too old to make this effort to change in my life and do what I really value, I deeply and profoundly love myself.
Or
Even though I fear am too old to make this effort to change in my life and do what I really value, I am proceeding and dynamically making those changes now.

B. I choose (want, deserve, allow myself, accept, realize that it is in my benefit) to be free from this (fear or other emotion) ________.

C. Reminder Phrase = (The emotion) _________.

9. Do you perhaps subconsciously believe that you do not have the right to be happy? If so, why?

A. Even though I feel unworthy of a life of joy, satisfaction and fulfillment, I deeply and profoundly love myself.
Or
Even though I feel unworthy of a life of joy, satisfaction and fulfillment, I am proceeding and dynamically making those changes now.

B. I choose (want, deserve, allow myself, accept, realize that it is in my benefit) to be free from this (fear or other emotion) ________.

C. Reminder Phrase = (The emotion) _________.

10. Do you fear success, power of happiness for some reason? If yes, why?

A. Even though I fear (success, power, happiness or other) ____, I deeply and profoundly love myself.
Or
Even though I fear (success, power, happiness or other) ____, I am proceeding and dynamically making those changes now.

B. I choose (want, deserve, allow myself, accept, realize that it is in my benefit) to be free from this (fear or other emotion) ________.

C. Reminder Phrase = (The emotion) _________.

11. Do you fear that others will not accept you if you change? If yes, why?

A. Even though I fear that others will not accept me if I do what I really value and love ____, I deeply and profoundly love myself.
Or
Even though I fear that others will not accept me if I do what I really value and love ____, I am proceeding and dynamically making those changes now.

B. I choose (want, deserve, allow myself, accept, realize that it is in my benefit) to be free from this (fear or other emotion) ________.

C. Reminder Phrase = (The emotion) _________.

12. Are you too bored or lazy to make the effort? If yes, why?

A. Even though I feel too bored or lazy to make this effort to create a life which I really value and love ____, I deeply and profoundly love myself.
Or
Even though I feel too bored or lazy to make this effort to create a life which I really value and love ____, I am proceeding and dynamically making those changes now.

B. I choose (want, deserve, allow myself, accept, realize that it is in my benefit) to be free from this (fear or other emotion) ________.

C. Reminder Phrase = (The emotion) _________.

13. Are you afraid of change in general? If yes, why?

A. Even though I am afraid of change in general, I deeply and profoundly love myself.
Or
Even though I am afraid of change in general, I am proceeding and dynamically making those changes now.

B. I choose (want, deserve, allow myself, accept, realize that it is in my benefit) to be free from this (fear or other emotion) ________.

C. Reminder Phrase = (The emotion) _________.

14. Are you afraid of not being perfect in your new work? If yes, why?

A. Even though I am afraid of not being perfect in doing what I really value, I deeply and profoundly love myself.
Or
Even though I am afraid of not being perfect in doing what I really value, I am proceeding and dynamically making those changes now.

B. I choose (want, deserve, allow myself, accept, realize that it is in my benefit) to be free from this (fear or other emotion) ________.

C. Reminder Phrase = (The emotion) _________.

15. Are you afraid of making the wrong choice and regretting? If yes, why?

A. Even though I am afraid of making the wrong choice in doing what I really value, I deeply and profoundly love myself.
Or
Even though I am afraid of making the wrong choice in doing what I really value, I am proceeding and dynamically making those changes now.

B. I choose (want, deserve, allow myself, accept, realize that it is in my benefit) to be free from this (fear or other emotion) ________.

C. Reminder Phrase = (The emotion) _________.

16. Do you have conflict of needs, where one part of you wants this change but another wants something else? If so see the chapter on EFT and Inner Conflicts.

By methodically removing obstacles (those above and others) we clear the field of our mind for our deeper values and life purpose to surface.

Through EFT we are:

1. Freeing ourselves from social conditioning.

2. Overcoming fears, negative emotions and limiting beliefs.

3. Letting go of our attachment to results.

In addition to our EFT work, we will also benefit from the following.

4. Cultivating contact with our inner voice. (Meditation, prayer and contemplation with help.)

5. Developing physical and mental harmony. (Daily exercise, breathing techniques, relaxation techniques and a healthy diet will help us here.)

6. Following our intuition.

7. Getting in touch with and developing our personal talents.

8. Those who are spiritually oriented might also want to pray daily to become an instrument of a higher good for all.

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